My six months in India have come to an end, and I'm back in California. Honestly, it was an absolute whirlwind, and I don't know where the time went. I was telling friends that I felt that the 6 month stay actually felt shorter than the 3 month trips I did the previous two years. When I had 3 months, it felt like a sprint; I had a lot on my plate and was in 5th gear for most of those 12 weeks. But when I looked ahead to 6 months, I knew I couldn't sprint all the way, so I made sure I settled in, got into a nice living situation with good food, balanced work and social life, travelled more. And once you're settled in and comfortable, the time just flies.
The last couple weeks in India were hectic. I was wrapping up Avaaj Otalo development and launched the phone line with DSC. Things got tense when a certain sarkari-phone-company-not-to-be-named-here took 2 months to do a job they promised me would take two weeks. I was bewildered trying to get them to finish; I had to be on their ass every day, calling to make sure they weren't going to blow me off.
Then there was my cousin Keya's wedding, which was fun. All my family from California came, which made me homesick. The familiar faces and talk about home and how I'd be going back. Soon half of my mind left to go back home, the other tending to the loose ends in India. I think this was a contributing factor to me being sick for most of the last two weeks I was there.
It was an unfitting cap to my trip to India, which was my best stay there ever. I mentioned my living situation. The uncleji that hosted me was great and his house was spacious and gorgeous. I had monkeys in the front yard and peacocks in the back. And then I was a 2-minute walk from only the most hi-fi gym in all of Ahmedabad, Studio de Physique. In retrospect it was a godsend that it was the most expensive gym in the city. It meant it wasn't ever crowded, leaving me to work in peace.
But probably the biggest factor to my enjoyable stay was the friends I had. It was incredible luck to have Samir, Madhu, Meghna, Sachi, Anjali, Jignasha, Nirali, Aditi, Chandni, Shiven, and others to hang out with. But especially Sam and MAM. I will never forget how much fun it was
lounging with you guys in Safal late night talking and eating cookies-cream (that's not a typo, that's how the flavor is spelled) and watching movies. I remember the night we almost watched Khwaab (why are you guys so embarrassed about such a great accomplishment?!?!) and instead watched Ali G and Samir was rolling. Or the night we celebrated Jayeshbhai and Anardidi's anniversary with the cake and framed photos only I was sick with food poisoning so I couldn't enjoy but it was Jayeshbhai so I felt happy anyway. Madhu feeling embarrassed about his dance that Meghna caught on tape and played for everyone. Me always encouraging Madhu by saying what a talented singer and dancer he is. Meghna's counter: the story about how Madhu used to fake play a keyboard on the roof of his apartment to impress a girl on the next roof. Dinners at our special restaurant, Cellad. Meghna, tell me if you ever figure out what that stupid sentence painted on the wall means. Dinner at Crazy Noodles where Maddog said he would just eat soup but ended up eating a load. Or that dinner the three of us had at La Fiesta where we got into deep conversation about fear and living life effortlessly (I had just finished my 10-day and MegaCool had just come back from Narmada walk). Or that night we all were at Jayeshbhai's making those masks for Jesus' birthday. Madddog remember the mask that you made that got rejected? I kept that in my closet and looked at it every morning. Or when Maddog broke out Mafia Wars at the office to show me how big of a gangster he had become in a pathetic game played by a worldwide network of pathetic guys. Giggling behind Meghna's back while she was at the computer doing real work. Meghna complimenting my ability to compliment people. Anytime you need one call me!I really could go on, and probably should because those memories are golden and priceless and joyful. Madhu and Meghna, I am so glad we got to bond, and I hope we stay friends for life. You two will always make me smile.
And this brings me to my present state of mind, being back at home: unsettled. Mixed feelings. For both of my other two trips to India, my favorite memory was on the plane ride home, looking out the window as we made the decent into SFO. I remember distinctly the feeling of pride for my home, happiness to be back in my turf, the place I love. Not this time. I felt uncomfortable from the moment I got back. I was in culture shock because everyone spoke English. But the discomfort went much deeper than that. Even now sitting here, I don't feel like I belong here. I don't feel like I relate to people here as much as I used to. People here have a different set of problems. They get upset when the Caltrain is 5 minutes late. Or that someone cut them off on the freeway or even "bigger" issues like when the AT&T network was down for 24 hours in San Francisco and the Twitterverse was ablaze with outrage. I absolutely can't relate to that, not any more. For six months I lived in a place where there is real suffering, and you see it every day. Sure, maybe I didn't do much about it, but I knew that my problems are just "problems." Minuscule. And I come back here to realize that all the people whom I considered my community don't see it the same way. People here are afflicted with a narrow perspective, they see life through only one angle. Oblivious. I must have left something back in India, part of who I am. Maybe eventually I'll be 100% Californian again, but not today. Today I feel like a foreigner in my own birthplace.
Signing off till next time,
TOI
San Francisco, January 2010
